Monday, August 14, 2017

Helping Veterans with PTSD Nightmares, Part 4

Event 12 August 2017
Updated: 18 Aug 17

At the annual northern New Mexico VFW leadership training conference in Albuquerque on 12 Aug 17. My visit was set up by Surgeon Roy Maldonado after he personally experienced the CREEI Process in Espanola on 10 Aug. See Part 3. Maldonado's area of interest and specialty is mental health.


New Mexico VFW State CMDR Eaton opening the meeting


State Surgeon Roy Maldonado (standing in rear) is introducing our CREEI dream work project. He commended District 6 Commander Chris Archuleta for taking the initiative to reach out in new directions to help veterans of all military services who suffer from PTSD nightmares.



Lunch


I was introduced to several leaders who took an active interest in learning about our CREEI Dream work approach.

To be continued in Part 5.

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Helping Veterans with PTSD Nightmares, Part 3

Posted: 10 August 2017
Updated: 18 Aug 17


First PTSD Vets CREEI Scan

From L to R: Roy, Matthew, Chris and Me
VFW District 6 CMDR Chris Archuleta and I had announced our first (of six) CREEI weekly workshop/seminar sessions would begin on Aug 9 in his office. BUT, no one called! 

Nevertheless, I decided to show up and go with whomever was there, scheduled or not. 

WHAT A PLEASANT SURPRISE! 

Two prominent VFW leaders came at Chris' invitation, one of whom happened to be primarily concerned with mental health of Vets. When we informed them about the process, they agreed to try it themselves right then. How glad we all were! 

Both Roy and Matthew were sufficiently impressed by their experience that Roy invited me to present to a training conference for NM VFW state leaders this coming Saturday in Albuquerque. Consequently, Chris and I have scrapped our current seminar plans and will wait until we find out what happens at the conference.

Chris Archuleta's VFW Office

To be continued in Part 4.

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Helping Veterans with PTSD Nightmares, Part 2


Posted: 1 August 2017
Updated: 3 Aug 17


Below is a flier that evolved from Part 1, now being sent to PTSD vets in Northern New Mexico by a local VFW leader. We look forward to hearing and relating to the stories of vets who have profound inner, albeit frightening, stories to tell.
Are you a VETERAN troubled by PTSD NIGHTMARES?
Sponsored by District 6 / Hill-Vigil post 5610 Cmdr Chris Archuleta in partnership with Dr. Eugene Kovalenko, you are invited to join a group of fellow veterans in understanding and coming to terms with your nightmares. 
Eugene will lead a 6-week pilot workshop/seminar introducing a proven method to examine your nightmares and actually learning how to grow from them.  Eugene is a US Army Korean/Cold War Intel veteran with PTSD, who has learned to manage his condition in positive ways over a period of more than five decades. He has developed a set of 12 simple questions to ask of any dream (which can be answered “yes”, “no” or “uncertain”) WITHOUT DISCLOSING ITS CONTENT.
This pilot workshop/seminar will be tailored to the wants and needs of participants, who can be anonymous if need be. 
Again, THE CONTENTS OF YOUR DREAMS NEED NOT BE SHARED WITH THE GROUP UNLESS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE IN DOING SO.
The first of six TWO HOUR weekly meetings will start at 10:00 A.M. until noon on Wednesday, beginning August 9, 2017. 
TO REGISTER: Call Eugene at 505.310-0098 to personally reserve a place. No more than ten people can be accepted.
WHERE:  Espanola Veterans Memorial Wall Office located in the plaza Convento Across from the Chamber of Commerce. Address: 1 Calle de las Españolas suite B Española, NM 87532
WHEN: Wednesday, August 9, 2017.
THERE IS NO CHARGE FOR THIS, although participants are expected to attend for the full six weeks. We will learn together!

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Remembering Ivan and meeting his older daughter

Posted: 26 July 2017
Updated: 1 Aug 17




Devon and friend at Yosemite in June 2017

Devon, 23



Ivan would have been 56 today (his favorite day of the year), had he not suddenly left us 21 years ago, leaving the family in a state of shock. Nevertheless, over the years since, we have recovered and made peace with the reality of his untimely loss. 


Ivan on Family Wall (age 35)
What none of us knew at that time was that Ivan had produced at least two children, the oldest of which is Devon, now 28, whom I met for the first time face-to-face last month (June 18). Since she worked nearby, Devon picked me up at the Long Beach airport and drove me to the hotel in Anaheim where I was scheduled to present a dream workshop at the annual IASD conference

She and I met again the following evening to get better acquainted and she revealed to me some surprising and heart-warming information about her birth father, whose name she did not yet know until age 23 when her adoptive mother showed her his obit and she found me on the internet. She was 12 years old (2001) when she began to feel her father's influence as a protecting presence. As she told me this I had a rush, such as I often do when the truth has been spoken. She also had a similar rush in the telling and we compared goose bumps.

                             

Monday, July 17, 2017

Reflections on 1965 "Epiphany"

The Conversion of St. Paul (Wm Congdon 1912) 
(per David Brewer)

Event: 17 July 1965
Posted: 17 July 2017
Updated: 21 Aug 17


Although it is still my anchor point after more than five decades, I can't say I wasn't warned about being most careful with whom to share it. That was long ago and I wasn't as careful as I should have been.

But now it feels right to say more in this forum. The two words "...one day..." are what often come to mind these days and continue to make me wonder. I cannot deny the power of the experience, but wonder if I have ever really understood it. The few others who know about it have different explanations, ranging from divine to demonic. [See letter from David Brewer on July 26, 1965]

Just before this "epiphany"
 took me into a place I could never have imagined, I assumed that the words "one day" that came into my mind in a quiet, repeating simple message, meant something in the distant future. No longer do I assume this because of all that has happened since. That particular one day actually came less than a week later! Before I began to comprehend what was happening, it suddenly became the 'hill I chose to die on'. See here for the story, here for the first of two events less than a week later and here for the second, plus the the confrontation that followed. 

I've not been the same since. 

My normal, socially acceptable, professional and personal life went into upheaval. Its consequences led to losing virtually everything: family, friends, church, reputation, career, material possessions, etc. Everything but a vow made during that extraordinary morning of July 17, 1965 and before the Epiphany manifested.

Epilogue
After a 7-year wilderness period beginning in mid October 1965 and many following years of rebuilding personal, family and professional reputation, I wrote a play called "The Defense of Cain", which was my attempt to bring light to the struggle that ensued following the Epiphany. Its first draft was completed on June 8, 1978 and I was amazed to discover the next day that the Mormon Church had changed its prejudicial policy toward the Negro via a news release that very morning of June 8! It felt like a task completed. When I wrote to friend Arnold Mindell [founder of Process Work] about the synchronicity of it, he replied that "Inner work is world work". That summed up a 13 year process for me!

Fast forward to June 8, 1978 Epilogue

ENK 


Sunday, July 16, 2017

Friend Bill is gone.



Professor William D. Romey

Posted: 16 July 2017
Updated: 20 Jul 17

When his regular monthly newsletters to friends and family ceased to arrive like clockwork on the first or second day of the month for the past five years, I feared something had happened. It had. My old friend Bill had passed on June 3, surrounded by loving family members who had gathered from here and abroad to say goodbye.

I first became aware of Bill when I received a note from him in 1959 during undergrad years in the School of Engineering at Berkeley. It had these simple words: "You don't know me, but I know you. You were great 'over there'. Regards, Bill Romey."

The note shocked and distressed me, since I sensed this guy was referring to a clandestine military operation I'd been in during the Cold War. But I did not know this name and had been ordered to secrecy about the operation for 20 years. So, I never responded to him, but never forgot the note nor the name.

It wasn't until the spring of 2012 that Bill and I met on the phone and became fast friends. Click here for my earlier account of meeting my esteemed friend.

Saturday, July 15, 2017

Stranger in a Strange Land--revisited, PART III





Posted: 15 July 2017
Updated: 20 Jul 17

It looks like getting a blog worthy dialogue established between Jim Wood and me, based on our respective experiences of Stranger is already challenging! We both face different and steep learning curves in adjusting to each other's expectations. This involves an initial mastering various long private message exchanges via text, email, phone calls and voice mail. 

I hope we learn to edit well enough to make this interesting to others!! [We both need to get Strunk and White's classic The Elements of Style under our belt. It is new to Jim; I've got to review it myself and adjust!]

On July 16 Jim texted: 
Greeting Eugene! 
I am attaching a 2 page 'notations' that correspond to pages IN MY BOOK.  I realize they likely will not [match] your copy. 
I am going to create a Word document that expands my thoughts a bit more on these topics and send pictures to your phone that also has my notations and thoughts on the particular pages.  We can begin like this to choose which items we want to blog and expand on [plus] some that you may know [about to] give me input or direct me to specific focused readings so I may gain much more understanding of the item.  These latter ones may not be something that would go into the blog for lots of discussion and debate.
[But] we will start this way and adapt as we see how this is going. 
Loving that we are in the journey of exploration and learning together, using this book as a catalyst for [a] deeper dive into WHO WE ARE  as Human Possibilities!!
17 Jul 17: THERE IT IS! Jim's last paragraph captures his expectations!

My own expectations will follow after we get further along in this dialogue. For now I am motivated by his desire to share our respective life experiences, beliefs and hopes.

TO BE CONTINUED....